The Boomerang Effect

I was sitting in my car at a gas station on the corner of a busy intersection watching the line of cars stopped at a stoplight. Two teen-aged boys sat in the first car stopped at the light. The teenager in the passenger seat threw a pop can out of his window. Immediately after, the driver in the car behind the teens jumped out of his vehicle, picked up the pop can, tossed it back through the teenager’s window and got back into his car. The light turned green and they all drove away.

The whole scene fascinated me and… Read More

Retrain Your Thinking to Regain Your Inner Peace

It was a Saturday morning and my then nine-year-old daughter, Brianna, was getting dressed to take an entrance exam at a school. Just before we left the house, I noticed she had matched her nice clean outfit with her old outdoor running shoes. I said, “Brianna, do you think you should put on a different pair of shoes?”

She looked down at her feet and then back up at me and said, “Mom, they’re not testing me on my shoes.”

I said, “You’re absolutely right.”

And we headed off to school—Brianna withRead More

Whoops! I Made a Mistake . . . Now What?

Earlier today, my web designer showed me the section of my website where I had a number of “unprocessed” orders. All of the orders were previously processed (some were even processed years ago!) This was just a list of all of those orders I had received through my website. What I didn’t know, until today, was after an order was processed, I needed to click a button to move each order from one category to another to clean up my lists.

When my webmaster showed this function to me, I clicked on all of the previous orders and choose the action “process all.” I thought this was… Read More

Take Back Your Power by Accepting Responsibility

Worrier says: It’s not my fault that I worry.

Warrior says: Worry is a choice. I choose to let go of worry. I intend to live with inner peace.

Years ago, I was convinced my weight was the source of my worry. Despite well-meaning advice from friends and family, I thought if I could only lose enough weight, my worries would disappear. I believed being thin would fix everything. Everyone would like me, I would like myself, and I would finally be calm and carefree.

PerhapsRead More

The Kindness of a Complete Stranger

“The world is full of good people. If you can’t find one, be one!” — Unknown

This is a story of an act of kindness from a complete stranger which had a profound impact. It happened when I was in Saint Lucia with my family.

My sister, Deanna, who also happens to be my best friend and one of the funniest and kindest people I know, went blind in one eye about 9 years ago. Deanna sometimes feels self-conscious about the way her eye looks now. The pupil is no longer black; it’s bright and shiny—it… Read More

What is YOUR Team Afraid Of?

The company was about to spend millions of dollars on a product training program when in reality, product training wasn’t even the real problem!

In his book The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure, Grant Cardone writes about an experience in which his company was hired to conduct a “mystery shop” campaign for an international company to identify where the breakdowns in the sales process were occurring.

He writes: “We were trying to collect information on where the franchises needed the most help. We visited more than 500 locations to see what percentage of time the… Read More

Transcending Difficulties

On the night this picture was taken, I had no idea the massive challenges and obstacles that were about to come my way!

This is a picture of me with Louise Hay. Louise is the founder of Hay House and the author of You Can Heal Your Life. It was taken 10 years ago at the Hay House author dinner in Las Vegas.

Denise Marek and Louise Hay – Hay House Author Dinner, Las Vegas

Some of my fellow authors were at that dinner including: Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Read More

Are We There Yet? A Cure for “Destination Impatience”

“Are we there yet? Are we there yet?” If you have children, you likely have first-hand experience with just how impatient they can be when it comes to traveling. Or perhaps you can remember the impatience you felt as a child during a long trip. Now that you’re all grown up, the big question is: Are you still impatient on the journey?

Many of us have carried this “destination impatience” forward into adulthood. When we’re in school, we can’t wait to graduate. When we graduate, we can’t wait to work. When we work, we can’t wait to work somewhere else, find… Read More

Could Worry Actually Be Helping You?

I was once a chronic worrier. The strange thing is, I believed that my worry was helping me.

Looking back now, I can see how it was “helping” me. Worrying about my weight and appearance—on top of continually denying my feelings because I worried too much about what others thought of me—helped me to develop bulimia. Worrying about being loveable and being good enough helped me to stay in unhealthy relationships. Worrying about being likeable helped me to not stand up for myself, express my needs, and do what was best for me. Worrying about money helped me to lie… Read More

How to Overcome the Fear of Making Mistakes

 To overcome the fear of making mistakes, aim for success, not perfection.

Is the fear of making a mistake preventing you from taking action? If so, the way to move beyond this fear and gain the courage to follow through on your action plan is to aim for success, not perfection. As a “recovering” perfectionist, I understand that if you have perfectionistic tendencies, you may equate success with perfection. After all, if you make a mistake, it means you have failed, right? Wrong. A mistake is not a failure. A mistake is simply the outcome of an action.… Read More